kellysouthpaw wrote:Well I got a myspace message from her this morning saying that when he got up to get ready for work he apologized and said that he was drunk and shouldn't have said it.
I think that's just such...crap, honestly. I guess it's raw because I was with a guy for awhile who would do the same thing. Get drunk and then say all sorts of crap and then claim the next day he can't be held accountable because he was drunk. Personally I often wonder if people speak the truth especially when they're drunk because the part of their brain that censors their speech before it's spoken is inhibited with alcohol use but...what do I know
But I'm biting my tongue and letting her know I'm still here for her. Though from the sound of the message it sounds like she's going to forgive him on very short order.
I would have to agree with vmh. My brother is an alcoholic and he stayed with me a few years back. In his own words, sober words, is that if he is drinking- he's lying, but just to get what he wants. When it came down to his feelings, he was brutally honest when he was drunk. As her friend, you need to have a very honest talk with her. Tell her that you support any decision that she makes but that they need to see a professional to work out things out. This was a huge trauma, losing the baby, and they need to face it head on, it will come back to bite them.